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{"id":1190,"date":"2019-02-17T23:47:25","date_gmt":"2019-02-17T21:47:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cerstva50.cz\/?p=1190"},"modified":"2021-02-05T11:21:36","modified_gmt":"2021-02-05T09:21:36","slug":"s-duverou-jdu-do-rizika-jenze-bez-ni-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/cerstva50.cz\/s-duverou-jdu-do-rizika-jenze-bez-ni-do\/","title":{"rendered":"S d\u016fv\u011brou jdu do rizika. Jen\u017ee bez n\u00ed do \u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

D\u016fv\u011bra je zvl\u00e1\u0161tn\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee se z\u00edskat bez z\u00e1sluh a ztratit bez viny. Ale po\u0159\u00e1d je to n\u011bco, co d\u00e1v\u00e1 na\u0161im vztah\u016fm s\u00edlu a smysl. Kdy\u017e nev\u011b\u0159\u00edm, m\u016f\u017eu b\u00fdt sice zamilovan\u00e1, ale stejn\u011b to dopadne \u0161patn\u011b.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

P\u0159ed \u010dasem jsem psala \u010dl\u00e1nek o tom, \u017ee psychopati necht\u011bj\u00ed d\u016fv\u011bru, ale slepou poslu\u0161nost<\/a>. Je to tak. Ale co je vlastn\u011b d\u016fv\u011bra? To jemn\u00e9 pouto, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1s v\u00e1\u017ee jenom k\u00a0n\u011bkter\u00fdm lidem. Kde ji po\u0159\u00e1d br\u00e1t? A d\u00e1 se obnovit? Spousta ot\u00e1zek, na kter\u00e9 jsem hledala dost dlouho odpov\u011b\u010f. To z\u00e1kladn\u00ed je, \u017ee se prost\u011b mus\u00edme rozhodnout. Budu lidem (obecn\u011b) sp\u00ed\u0161 d\u016fv\u011b\u0159ovat, nebo je budu podez\u00edrat?<\/p>\n

Tohle je jen a jen moje rozhodnut\u00ed. Ano, v\u00edm, kdy\u017e d\u00e1m d\u016fv\u011bru, jdu do rizika. Kdy\u017e ned\u00e1m, jsem relativn\u011b v\u00a0bezpe\u010d\u00ed, proto\u017ee m\u011b t\u011b\u017eko n\u011bkdo m\u016f\u017ee zklamat. Co si kdo vybereme?<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e to uv\u00e1\u017e\u00edm, nejde o stoprocentn\u00ed d\u016fv\u011bru ka\u017ed\u00e9mu, koho potk\u00e1m. To by \u010dlov\u011bk v\u00a0dne\u0161n\u00edm sv\u011bt\u011b nedopadl dob\u0159e. Jde o to d\u016fv\u011b\u0159ovat, kde to jde. M\u00edt kolem sebe lidi d\u016fv\u011bryhodn\u00e9 a spolehliv\u00e9.<\/strong> Jedn\u00edm ze znak\u016f dosp\u011blosti je um\u011bn\u00ed p\u0159ijmout riziko, \u017ee v\u011bci nejsou tak, jak jsme si je vysnili, anebo jak bychom si je p\u0159\u00e1li. Prost\u011b \u017eivot p\u00ed\u0161e ty nej\u0161\u00edlen\u011bj\u0161\u00ed sc\u00e9n\u00e1\u0159e, kter\u00e9 \u010dlov\u011bk t\u011b\u017eko vymysl\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Velmi t\u011b\u017eko se mi popisuje, co to je d\u016fv\u011bra. Je to jemn\u00fd pocit bezpe\u010d\u00ed, kdy v\u00edm, \u017ee m\u016f\u017eu b\u00fdt autentick\u00e1 a otev\u0159en\u00e1. Kdy\u017e n\u011bkoho vid\u00edme poprv\u00e9, mozek velmi rychle vyhodnocuje, zda je n\u00e1\u0161 prot\u011bj\u0161ek d\u016fv\u011bryhodn\u00fd. Zda nel\u017ee, nemanipuluje, zda jsou jeho slova v\u00a0souladu s\u00a0jeho \u010diny. Jak se p\u00ed\u0161e v\u00a0Bibli: va\u0161e \u0159e\u010d budi\u017e ano \u2013 ano, ne \u2013 ne. Mozek dok\u00e1\u017ee (\u010dasto bez na\u0161\u00ed v\u011bdom\u00e9 \u00fa\u010dasti) vyhodnotit nov\u00e9ho zn\u00e1m\u00e9ho. Proto si \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me \u2013 ten\/ta je sympatick\u00fd\/nesympatick\u00fd. P\u0159itom nedok\u00e1\u017eeme konkr\u00e9tn\u011b \u0159\u00edct, pro\u010d.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e p\u0159ijde zklam\u00e1n\u00ed<\/h3>\n

Na za\u010d\u00e1tku vztah\u016f b\u00fdv\u00e1me opatrn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. P\u0159esto se stane, \u017ee n\u00e1s zklame n\u011bkdo bl\u00edzk\u00fd. N\u011bkdo, komu jsme dali d\u016fv\u011bru. To je prost\u011b riziko podnik\u00e1n\u00ed. \u00dapln\u011b nejhor\u0161\u00ed by bylo si \u0159\u00edct: \u201eTak kdy\u017e u\u017e i on\/ona zklamali, komu m\u00e1m teda v\u011b\u0159it?\u201c<\/p>\n

Prost\u011b zklamali. Jsou to jen lid\u00e9. I my jsme ud\u011blali kopance, i j\u00e1 pat\u0159\u00edm do t\u00e9to skupiny. I kdy\u017e m\u011b to mrz\u00ed, i kdy\u017e jsem to vysv\u011btlovala, p\u0159esto se d\u016fv\u011bra naru\u0161ila. Tak co d\u00e1l?<\/p>\n

Rozbitou v\u00e1zu taky neslep\u00edme beze stopy. Stejn\u011b tak ot\u0159esen\u00e1 d\u016fv\u011bra nen\u00ed to, co b\u00fdvala. N\u011bkdo um\u00ed d\u00e1t v\u011bcem \u010das, n\u011bkdo druhou \u0161anci ned\u00e1v\u00e1. To u\u017e tak je. A v\u00a0konkr\u00e9tn\u00edch p\u0159\u00edpadech se to d\u00e1 velmi dob\u0159e pochopit. A tady se dost\u00e1v\u00e1me zase na za\u010d\u00e1tek. Kdy\u017e se ve vztahu n\u011bco pochroumalo, m\u016f\u017eu se j\u00e1 sama rozhodnout, zda d\u00e1m druhou \u0161anci<\/strong> s\u00a0t\u00edm, \u017ee si m\u016f\u017ee mou d\u016fv\u011bru znovu z\u00edskat, anebo zda si \u0159eknu prost\u011b dost!<\/p>\n

Neexistuje jedin\u00e1 rada, neexistuje univerz\u00e1ln\u00ed \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed. Kdy\u017e se c\u00edt\u00edm \u0161patn\u011b, kdy\u017e jsem v\u00a0pr\u016fb\u011bhu \u017eivota byla zklaman\u00e1, schovala jsem d\u016fv\u011bru jako takov\u00fd mal\u00fd poklad. A vy\u0161la jsem s\u00a0n\u00ed znovu na sv\u011btlo sv\u011bta ve chv\u00edli, kdy jsem se zase c\u00edtila siln\u00e1 podstoupit riziko – nev\u011bd\u011bt, co bude d\u00e1l.<\/p>\n

Je pravdou, \u017ee nejdel\u0161\u00ed a nejpevn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed vztahy m\u00e1m s\u00a0lidmi, kter\u00fdm d\u016fv\u011b\u0159uji. S\u00a0nimi\u017e se vz\u00e1jemn\u011b chov\u00e1me hezky, se kter\u00fdmi si rozum\u00edme, nemus\u00edme soupe\u0159it, hodn\u011b si vysv\u011btlujeme, inspirujeme se a respektujeme i svoje nedokonalosti. To je pak opravdov\u00e1 kr\u00e1sa. A sta\u010dilo mali\u010dko. Na za\u010d\u00e1tku se rozhodnout, \u017ee budu d\u016fv\u011b\u0159ovat, i kdy\u017e mi \u017eivot p\u0159iprav\u00ed t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9 zkou\u0161ky.<\/p>\n

Jeden cit\u00e1t na z\u00e1v\u011br:<\/p>\n

D\u016fv\u011bra d\u00e1v\u00e1 rozmluv\u011b v\u00edc, ne\u017e inteligence.<\/em> (Francois Duc de la Rochefoucauld)<\/p>\n

\u017divot pln\u00fd d\u016fv\u011bry p\u0159eje<\/p>\n

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